Halloween: A Time to Pretend
As Halloween approaches, thoughts of kids dressed up in costumes and masks come to mind. We think of scary movies and folk tales passed down from generation to generation. Some historians believe Halloween originated from an ancient Celtic holiday called Samhain (pronounced saah-win). Samhain is a festival that marks the end of the harvest season and the beginning of the cold, dark winter. It’s a time when some believe the veil between the spirit world and our world is the most fragile.
People light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts and evil spirits. Putting on costumes and masks are ways for us to pretend to be someone else. It’s sort of like an escape. If I’m pretending to Batman, Ironman or Catwoman, I don’t have to be me.
Hiding Behind the Mask
Oftentimes, we hide behind masks without even realizing it. We have masks of anger when what we really feel is hurt. We smile when we really want to do is scream. Instead of getting angry, we get quiet. Instead of crying on the outside, we torment ourselves on the inside. We try to be strong and appear as if everything is alright.
You know the lines: I’m fine. It’s okay. I’m good. What you're really saying is nothing. At the end of the day, these empty words say nothing and tell the person you’re talking to absolutely nothing about your feelings.
Seeing Beyond the Mask
If you really want to see beyond a person’s mask, look past the superficial posturing. Forget about their clothes, car, house, job, money, how they look and everything else you see on the outside. Go to the place they don’t want you to see… inside their heart.
The Mask Unveiled
Appearances are funny. We think we allow people to see what we want them to see, but in reality, who you are comes through whether you want it to or not. If you’re angry, frustrated or sad, we see it. It’s in your body language…your eyes… your tone of voice. We also see when you’re happy. It’s in your smile… your walk… your talk and the positive energy you put out.
When you wear a mask, it lowers your energy. Think about, if you spend all your time pretending to be someone you’re not, you’re using up the energy you need to be who you are. So this Halloween, instead of putting a mask on, why don’t you take the mask off. Even better, get rid of the mask altogether.
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Latarsha Horne is a Certified Professional Coach with a strong background in learning and development. Her coaching style is open-minded, straight-forward, instinctive, creative and caring. If you want to be challenged and grow, she's the coach for you.