I can remember a time when I relied heavily on the advice and knowledge of other people to make decisions. As I look back, I guess I lacked confidence in myself. Living that way gave other people power over my choices. Not to say that advice from other people isn’t valuable, because I think it is. It’s just important to weigh that advice against what you want, not the other person.
Now that I’m making changes in my life, I’m also shaking up and shifting my relationships with other people. You see, when you choose to stand in your own power, it means you’re sure about what you believe in, confident in your knowledge and lean to the Divine for wisdom more than you do other people. So the question for me is: How to balance standing in my power with my relationships? Since there are no right or wrong answers, I’ll share what I’m doing.
In my iPEC Certified Professional Coach Program, we were asked to describe Our Coaching Philosophy. iPEC has 33 coaching principles, which help define not only your personal belief system, but the foundation for how you plan to coach other people. We were asked to choose 10 of these 33 principles to explain the heart of how we want to operate in the world.
One of the principles that I chose was “The answers to all questions lie within.” When you really think about the meaning behind these words, it’s a very powerful statement. It says that there are no questions that I don’t already have the answers to.
Believing in this statement does a few things for me. It makes me more self-assured about my decisions and allows me to rely more on my own intuition for guidance and answers. That’s not to say that I don’t listen to the advice of other people, because I do. But what I also do is weigh that advice against what I feel is right for me.
Doing this enables me to honor my own feelings more than I ever have in the past. I say “no” when I really don’t want to do something. I speak up when I don’t agree with something. I’m open to new ways of being, thinking and doing things. This is what standing in my own power means to me. It’s standing in my truth and walking my own path.
So what does standing in your own power mean to you? The answer to this question lies within. You decide! Just make sure you choose what’s best for you.
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Latarsha Horne is a Certified Professional Coach with a strong background in learning and development. Her coaching style is open-minded, straight-forward, instinctive, creative and caring. If you want to be challenged and grow, she's the coach for you.